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I had my 1st child at the age of 16 a beautiful son and 20 months later a beautiful daughter. Unfortunately the marriage was extremely violent and I let when my daughter was 11 months old. Back to my parents house where it was already very crowded and drug use was rampant. Tried to get HUD housing and after being on a waiting list for about 2 years I was denied in a 5 minute conversation because I made $12,000 and needed back in that time to make only $10,000. I was devasted to say the least, only receiving very little in food stamps and money from the State. The point I am trying to make is I hear about all the programs now, and wonder what our lives would have turned out to be, as my son ended in in prison and my daughter to this day holds a grudge against me. My second marriage my children were physically abused by a man who was in police work. And once again I had to move in with my Mother and it was a very volatile situation. Drugs and my mother daily being verbally abused. I to this day am unable to live on my own. And society should at least let people live with dignity. Yes, I have a job that I love, but not the income to live with respect. Even an apartment should not be out of someone’s reach, to where you don’t have to worry about the necessities, food, water, phone, gas, electric, and if for some reason your vehicle would need fixing. Forget it! I have worked since I was 19 years old, I am now 64 years old and feel my life should no longer be a struggle. Living with my daughter, her husband and 3 children for the last 19 years has been trying to say the least. She holds a lot of animosity towards me, and I never leave my room. That is no way to live. Live was never easy for myself and my children to say the least. No bedroom for my kids, sleep wherever, I get it, but unfortunately I saw this with other friends of mine. Family not welling to help, evictions, and don’t forget molestations. Mine started when I was a child, and also with some of my friends. It has been a very sad journey, and difficult (still at this age) to understand and comprehend. Why just because I have a job and make if you make more than lets say $29,000 they think you are rich and do not need assistance. Are you kidding me! And the physical abuses I went thru in my lifetime and molestations as a small child. It was sad that back in the day, parents did not know how to handle those types of situations. I remember once it got out in the neighborhood, no one would let their kids play with me. I was the victim for God sake! Thank God that stigma does not stick to a person anymore. And it happened to me numerous times. To tell the truth, I was grateful when we moved to any city. My first husband broke my nose, and one time hit our 2 year old son so hard across his face it left and hand print. There was a time when he came home drunk we argued/fought and he got on top of my and started to strangle me to death. I remembered looking at my children who were 9/10 months and almost 2 years old thinking I will never see them again. Somehow, I was able to get him off me, and I left and never went back. Unfortunately for me I have endless stories and will continue to tell them and share what I can with others who will read my stories.