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I started my first relationship when i was really young. Had my first child as a teenager and my second 3 years later. By the time i was 18 i had 4 kids (twins) and in an unhappy marriage. My common-law husband then of 7 years was very dominating and controlling. When i was 20 i met my second husband, and even though we started our relationship by disrupting our then current relationships, we had a long happy 9 years. By then our family grew with 2 more daughters to a total of 6 kids. My life was good, my kids were happy and my husband seemed to be a great father to all my children. But people change marriages end and families fall apart. On our 10th year we decided that there was no love left so we ended our relationship in a mutual understanding. As we both went our separate ways and both dating at the time… my boys from my previous marriage which were not biologically his went to live with him. He was the only father they had known up to that point. He seemed to genuinely love them and want to have them come live with him. In the following year or actually in less than six months my ex Married. The boys began to be ignored and left alone most of the time. For a while it was ok, we would exchange kids and then i would pick up my boys every weekend and he would hardly see the girls. In that year my boys went to 5 different schools because he couldn’t sit still long enough. On night after a very heated argument that i had with his wife about my boys they came and dropped my boys off on my curbing. It was 11 o clock at night and with some bullshit excuse about me threatening to take them away…their “father” was gone. My boys were 13 years old and heartbroken, to this day they have not seen him or heard from him. For the next 2 years we had no contact with him and he never even called to check on his girls. During this time his wife made my life miserable…constantly bothering me on social media.
Making friends with my current boyfriends ex wife and together bullying me on Facebook. Always making bit strips about me and involving teenagers to bully my daughter on twitter. It was ugly. On the third year i had had enough…I filed for child support. Biggest mistake of my life! On our first child support hearing he filed for an extension to hire an attorney. He was going to fight me for custody. On our first custody hearing, his attorney made me look like a drunk and a batterer. I was ordered to take battering classes and to attend AA meetings (i hardly drink) lol. On our second hearing everything looked good…i won the temporary orders and my children were to stay with me and he was ordered to pay child support and got visitation rights. Everything was good. This was in May. Dec 10th i had a final court hearing that i was NOT notified of and i did not show. He won my kids by default. I mean how can a judge grant someone full custody of kids without even reading the notes on the case. A million things could have taken place in that time for them to just grant full custody to someone that wad MIA in their lives for 3 years. Doesn’t make sense. I have now hired my second attorney and will fight them again but my daughters are heartbroken…they absolutely refuse to go live with him. Its a hard lesson to learn but the person with the most money and the most crooked sneaky attorney will always win in the end.